it’s like super fucked up that a teenage boy who wears makeup for a living has become the target of ceaseless, aggressive, widespread harassment, and everybody pretends it’s completely justified (as if literally anything “problematic" a literal child could have said or done would warrant this endless barrage of concentrated hate) and not just the socially sanctioned opportunity to bully the fuck out of an effeminate gay kid that it so obviously is
consider taking white twinks off a pedestal and understanding that male gender nonconformity has been performed publicly by men of colour for decades and sometimes when someone gets made fun of or called out they like just deserve it
not to mention how he’s like unapologetically mainstreamed and profited off of black and more specifically black lgbt culture considering aave makes up like a solid half of his “brand”
Not to mention a white man getting rightfully criticized for being racist is not “aggressive ceaseless harrassment” and it’s interesting how these criticisms are being described as that when Black and brown LGBT people are the main ones being vocal about their criticisms but you know whiteness has an egregious way of painting people of color as aggressive for daring to voice an opinion against a white person of any sort of marginalization 🤷🏾♀️
“I’ll tell you what is harder than dying in Gaza by an Israeli missile deluxe. What is harder is that you get a phone call from the Israeli army telling you toevacuate your home because it will be bombed in ten minutes. Imagine; ten minutes; and your whole short history on the surface of Earth will be erased.
Gifts you received, photos of your siblings and your children (dead or alive), things that you love, your favorite chair, your books, that last poetry collection your read, a letter from your expatriate sister, reminders of the ones you loved, the smell of your bed, the jasmine tree that hangs off your western window, your daughter’s hair clip, your old clothes, your prayer rug, your wife’s gold, your savings; imagine; all this passes in front of your eyes in ten minutes, all that pain passes while you are struck by surprise.
Then you take your identification papers (passport, birth certificate, etc.) which you have ready in an old metallic candy box, and you leave your home to die a thousand times, or refuse to leave and die once.”
This absolutely kills people, this is not just some trivial decision for congress to make, this is the knowing and willing effort to harm the american people.
weddings are pricy in new york. but we’ve avoided some cost by getting married in long island, not in the city, as well as getting married in February, and not in the summer. of course, with 300+ people there are some expenses you just cannot avoid. but we’ve been doing a good job of talking to vendors about cutting costs and looking to family friends who are in the wedding industry who can work at a price that is more reasonable.
at the end of the day, we have a savings plan and we’re on track and it’s great that we will be able to pay for the wedding in cash and not have to use credit cards. i’m grateful that he and i are working together as a team to make sure we don’t start our marriage off in debt.
I found the company who makes them in case anyone else is interested!
This is why adaptable equipment is important!! Gives more power back to the user to live their life in the best way for them. Unfortunately a lot of times it is cost prohibitive and hard to find- that’s where allies and activists (and #socialworkers #BlackTumblr #BlackTwitter) can help.
